Having a Family Integrated Perspective in a Non-Family Integrated Church.

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NEW WEBINAR & ARTICLE

We mentioned a while back about an upcoming webinar we were recording on the subject of “Having A Family Integrated Perspective in a Non-Family Integrated Church”. This has now been completed, following an article of the same name that Kris was asked to write for the NCFIC (National Centre for Family Integrated Churches) based in the USA.

In the webinar, hosted by Scott Brown (Director of the NCFIC) Kris, along with Craig Houston (who spoke at ENGAGE), and Jason Dohn (Pastor at Sovereign Redeemer, NC), discuss the article, and give practical pointers for families who would like to be part of an integrated church, but do not have that option.

Click here to view the webinar and article.

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Living A Grace-Paced Life in a Crazy-Paced World…”Run Well, Finish Well”

This is the final post in a 9-part series I’ve been sending out every Friday,  relevant to the theme of this year’s ENGAGE Family Discipleship & Home Education Conference (only 1 weeks to go for Christchurch, 2 for Auckland!!!). Here goes with the ninth and final post…

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Living a Grace-Paced Life in a Crazy-Paced World…

“Run Well, Finish Well”.

In the last post, we talked about the importance of being able to say ‘no’ to certain things, because we have said ‘yes’ to the more important things. The purpose of writing this series of posts, has been to help us experience more of a grace-paced life, than we may currently be experiencing in this crazy-paced world. In this final post, we will look at the encouraging truth, that this kind of living is not something we have to try and get, rather it is something we already have, in Christ.Let us consider the main text that this theme is centred around – Hebrews 12:1-3…

1 Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, lest you become weary and discouraged in your souls. – Hebrews 12:1-3 NKJV

Preventative Measures

As we consider the truth of God’s Word in this passage, we can read it forwards in a way that is preventative, and we can read it backward in a way that is restorative. Let me explain.

If we take God at His Word, and recognise that just like the many saints of old who have gone before us, we too can run well and finish well in our race of faith – then we will be careful to lay aside the weight (not bad stuff, but hinders us from running well), and the sin (bad stuff because it disobeys God’s Word) that slows us down and cripples us from running with endurance.

We will make Jesus our goal, looking to Him, and centering our lives around Him. We will acknowledge His sovereignty over all things, and accept even suffering, trials, and hardship as His will for our lives.

We will also be diligent to intentionally, and consistently, consider Him, reminding ourselves of gospel truth over and over – knowing deep down that our worth, peace, contentment and joy does not come from what we do, but from what He has done.

Living this way, we will avoid weariness and discouragement. But more than this, our Christ-centred perspective, will direct our priorities, and we will be productive and effective in God’s kingdom.

Restorative Measures

However – if we are already overwhelmed by, or on the way to a season of weariness and discouragement, then we go backward through these verses and find the only answer that can help us to get back to where we need to be.

First, we must take the time to consider Him. If Christ’s finished work upon the cross is far from our hearts and minds, we will never truly overcome weariness and discouragement. This is because much stress is created in our lives, from trying to live the Christian life in our own strength – it can’t be done.

Next, we make it our aim to look to Jesus as the Author and Finisher of our faith. Worry and anxiety wear us down, when we forgot this, and allow ourselves to feel like helpless victims of circumstances we have no control over. Knowing, and trusting that Christ is Lord of all, all the time, brings us to that place of peace, even in difficult times.

Finally, if we are still struggling in our lives to run with endurance, and to keep our pace up in the race of faith – it will nearly always be a result of either sin, weight, or both that is hindering us and slowing us down. Be willing to confess sin, remembering the hope we have in the gospel, and be willing to lay aside weights – anything that is not helping you to run.

…much stress is created in our lives, from trying to live the Christian life in our own strength – it can’t be done.

You Can Live a Grace-Paced Life

At the risk of sounding too simplistic, I just want to leave you pondering on the truth of these verses, and encourage you that you can live a grace-paced life in this crazy-paced world because of Christin Christ, and for Christ. 

He has already given you everything you need.

You will be busy, but busy with a purpose, and busy with a peace that you begin your days with, instead of frantically trying to achieve it by everything you cram in.

Less really is more. Less weight and less sin, more endurance and more glory to God from the way that you live.

So now, run well, and finish well by understanding, embracing and devoting yourself to God’s priorities, and as you do, enjoy the life, and the people He has blessed you with – not crazy-paced, but grace-paced. 

For thought, prayer and application: Something that often prevents people from making progress in their walk with the Lord, is not taking the time to stop and take action on whatever it is that needs to be done. Why not set aside an evening, to prayerfully consider, reflect, and act upon the content we have covered in this series. If you are coming to ENGAGE 2017 we will be giving you lots of practical help, in how you can run your race of faith well, be less distracted, and more effective as a follower of Christ in this world. At the end of the day, it’s not about us – it’s about the glory of God. However, the blessing we get to experience is that when we put God and His ways first, it is always best for our lives too. It’s not always easy, but as Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego found out – it’s better to be in the fiery furnace with the Lord, than outside without Him!

Living A Grace-Paced Life in a Crazy-Paced World…”Saying Yes, Saying No”

This is part 8 of a series of posts I’ve been sending out every Friday,  relevant to the theme of this year’s ENGAGE Family Discipleship & Home Education Conference (only 2 weeks to go for Christchurch, 3 for Auckland!!!). Here goes with the eighth post…

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Living a Grace-Paced Life in a Crazy-Paced World…

“Saying Yes, Saying No”.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 NKJV – 6 “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.

In the last post, we talked about the cost of crazy-busy, and how the actions we take or fail to take due to being busy and distracted, can have long lasting and costly consequences. Today, we will be looking at the importance of safeguarding time with our spouse and children.

The Reason We Can’t Say No

I remember hearing a phrase many years ago, that stopped me in my tracks and lodged itself into my memory banks for good. I can’t remember where I was at the time, or who said it, but it was simply this, “The reason we can’t say no, is because we don’t have a big enough yes”.

This really spoke to me, as early in our married life I always felt I had to justify why I couldn’t do a certain thing for someone, or take on a commitment – especially if that time in which I was needed was “spare” time.

After all, if I have spare time, why would I say no?

It always felt much easier to say no when I had something “important” happening already, but if I was just “at home” with Becky and the children, I felt uneasy about that being a reason to say no.

Maybe you can relate?

Maybe you are the type of man or woman who others speak of by saying, “they would do anything for anyone”.

I don’t want to burst anyone’s bubble, but that’s not always a noble description, and sometimes it can indicate a flaw which needs addressing.

Quality or Quantity?

Quality time is never a substitute for quantity of time. This is simply because quality time, can only ever come from a quantity of time. Furthermore, it is in the “normal” moments we spend together as a family (“sit in your house”, “walk by the way” – Deut 6:7) that we get to normalise God’s Word, God’s presence, and God’s glory – so our children don’t just think that only kicks in on Sunday mornings.

Quality time involves bringing God into every aspect of life, naturally, joyfully, yet intentionally.

“The reason we can’t say no, is because we don’t have a big enough yes”

Yes, we should desire to be busy and productive for the Lord, but fruitful and effective ministry will only ever flow from a family environment in which much time, affection, energy, and emotion is invested.

If you want to read a sobering account of a man who said “yes” to the needs of others but at the same time said “no” to the needs of his family – with devastating consequences – click here to read the story of Bob Pierce.

 

Be Proactive, Not Reactive

So don’t feel guilty by saying no to a task or commitment, because you had planned to just “be” with your spouse or children.

Don’t feel like you have to justify spending your time this way, or even explain it. I used to do this, now I just say, “sorry I’m not available that night”.

Be proactive with time spent with your spouse and children, not reactive. To be reactive means we have seasons of neglect, broken only by erratic, pre-crisis circumstances. To be proactive means we are saying a big “yes”, to simply being with our family, which makes it easier to say “no” when we need to.

Of course, it needs to be said there is a time to say “yes” – even when it’s sacrificial for us, our spouse and our children. However, when it is the exception, not the norm, and when other priorities are in place, our families don’t suffer the consequences of sustained neglect.

In summary – when a family is committed to spending quality time with the Lord (personal and family devotions) and quality time together, without distraction, free from the expectations of others – such a family is then in a much stronger place to be very effective in serving others.

A family good at being together will be good at doing together.

For thought, prayer and application: One of the things our family has found very helpful, is to plan ahead each week or month the time we will commit to hospitality, ministry, meetings and various other activities – making sure we allow plenty of time for our family to be together. This ebbs and flows, gets neglected at times and is far from a perfect system. However, it does help us to say “no” when seemingly urgent demands come up, that can, in reality, wait. Likewise, it allows us to say, “yes” spontaneously at times, because we know the time we have already prioritised will absorb some flexibility and sacrifice. Prayerfully consider how you can make more of a “yes” with your family time, so you can avoid that time being used up on less important activity.